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Your Key To Success: What's Holding You Back From Living The Life You Truly Desire?

Not knowing what you want in life can be an embarrassing and humiliating feeling. The inability to clearly define what you want can leave you feeling very isolated and lonely.

You may feel like you're just drifting along going through the motions while everyone else has it figured out but you.

Why does it feel this way?

Because knowing what you want from life defines who you are. It can also influence your career path, and truly make life worth living.

How do I know?

A few years ago, I was fighting bouts of, depression, anxiety and really just felt like I didn't have control of my life.

I woke up each morning with zero ambition or intentionality about anything in my life.

As a result, I felt lost, frustrated and like I was just going through the motions in survival mode.

Can you relate?

It's no wonder the question, "What do you want" felt so exhausting to me.

I didn't even want to decide what's for dinner let alone what I wanted for my future and my life.

I felt like every decision sucked up so much mental energy. Mental energy I didn't have!

For me the question wasn't how did I get to this mentally exhausted place as much as it was why am I here.

Not only that, but I struggling for a long time to figure it out.

The great news is, I figured it out and I'm sharing my secret with you today!

In today's blog, I'm explaining whats holding you back from the life you truly desire and how to make the breakthrough of a lifetime so you can finally get on the path to attaining your wildest, craziest, and most audacious dreams.

One Simple Rule

Here's the truth and what you must understand to make any real, sustainable shifts in your life.

Our brain is the most powerful tool we have at our disposal as humans.

Not only that but it's main function is to answer the questions we ask it.

That's it!

So if it's really that simple, doesn't it make sense to ask your brain really good questions?

You know what they say, garbage in-garbage out, right?

The problem is that so many of us are on autopilot with squirrel brains and we never stop to question the questions we ask ourselves.

Consider this, we ask ourselves questions all day long, "Whats for lunch?" "How am I going to get this done?" "When will I lose weight?" "Why is my life so hard?"

As soon as you think the question, your brain immediately goes to work to formulate an answer.

That's great news!

As long as you don't stop the process by answering, "I don't know."


Because as soon as you answer a question with "I don't know" your brain immediately shuts down and you never get to the creative and inspiring answers it has waiting for you on the other side.

So what can you do instead?

Instead of immediately answering with "I don't know" try responding with "I want to know".

The next time you feel like answering a question you've asked yourself with "I don't know what I want" try responding with "I want to know what I want".

I literally say, "Ok brain, what do I want?"

It seems like such a tiny shift that wouldn't make that much of a difference, but don't underestimate its power to manifest exactly what you want in life.

So here's a real life example:

What if you asked yourself, "How can I lose weight for good and have fun at the same time"?

Even just reading that sentence you're brain immediately wants to go to town to figure out creative ways and wonderful ideas to move you closer to your goal.

Or how about this,"I want to know creative, unique ways to land my next promotion or new job."

Do you feel the difference in these questions vs. responding with "I don't know"?

Now it's your turn. Take a minute right now to come up with five questions you ask yourself on a regular basis.

Write them down.

Now go back to those questions and figure out two or three different versions of the same question you could ask yourself to make it a high mileage question.

One simple way to do this is to add descriptive words.

For example, "How can I lose weight permanently and have fun at the same time without deprivation or pain."

By adding vivid descriptions and being very specific with your questions you are turning them into high mileage questions that your brain must answer with high mileage answers.

Learning the skill of using high mileage questions to focus your mind is the best way for you to find the source of wisdom within you that will ultimately enable you to live your very best life!

Want more great tips, tricks and life hacks?

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